Yes, there's a massive spoiler in this post if you haven't yet watched the G.A. ep. from last week.
This was the scene in which I pretty much realized Burke and Christina were not going to get married. . . he said all his vows perfectly, to a room full of female nurses and doctors -- really, what were the chances they'd still have him recite them to Christina at the end of the show? The only loophole I could foresee is if they didn't show the whole ceremony, maybe had him just finishing up and then go into hers. . .
"In Waverly's OR, Addison says that the babies are in the NICU and Burke says that she's stabilized, which is perfect because now they can get to wedding chat without having to concentrate fully on the pesky surgery in front of them. Addison asks if he's nervous, but he says he's excited, and the only nerves are about his vows. Addison tells him to try it out on the room full of women he has right there. He clearly has no desire to do so, but he's severely outnumbered, so he begins. "Cristina, I could promise to hold you, and to cherish you, I could promise to be there in sickness and in health. I could say till death do us part. But I won't. Those vows are for optimistic couples, the ones full of hope. And I do not stand here, on my wedding day, optimistic, or full of hope." During all of this, the glances of his audience are getting more confused and worried by the moment, and Addie tries to mercifully stop him. I have to say, though, this is the most honest thing I've heard him express in months. But then he has to go and change it up. "I am not optimistic, I am not hopeful, I am sure. I am steady." Hey, and if he's not, he can just bully his wife into being steady for him! It worked out so well before, after all. "And I know, I am a heart man. Take 'em apart, put 'em back together, I hold them in my hands. I am a heart man. So this, I am sure, you are my partner, my lover, my very best friend." There's a shot of Izzie staring intently, just so we don't forget that she's tortured. "My heart, my heart beats for you. And on this day, the day of our wedding, I promise you this. I promise you to lay my heart in the palm of your hands. I promise you, me." Addie sighs, Izzie's left speechless, and Addison assures him that they all want him to now dump Yang and marry them instead, har har. I still can't get past the really condescending and brutal entry to these vows. I also can't help but think that maybe the two people getting married should know each other well enough that he'd be aware that she thinks of the heart only as an organ, and not as the symbolic centerpiece of his vows." [Quoted from recap at Television Without Pity]
And here's what I posted elsewhere about the episode as a whole:
"My [youngest] sister and I are both huge
Grey's fans and our reaction to the season finale was that we felt
depressed, and like relationships we've cared about were thrown in the
trash heap without so much as a fare-thee-well. It's one of the few
shows I make a point of watching every week, but I don't know if it
will be "appointment viewing" for me next season. I listened to the
podcast [available through iTunes, etc.] and heard the "burn it all down" plan and "you know, this is
life". Well, in real life, sometimes people do get married and
sometimes people who have been through hell together, like Derek and
Meredith, stay together. It's not just separated people in their
fifties and gay couples who make it! And, I'm sorry, this whole let's
bring in Meredith's half sister thing -- especially since you already
had her try to pick up Derek in the same bar where he met Meredith --
is total bull. She seems like a lovely actress, but by mirroring
MerDer's meeting, it's like saying that their relationship wasn't
special, that Derek is just going to move on to a new intern every
year. Come on! He's in love with her, she's in love with him. You'd
have to be a total idiot not to know that pressing Meredith about your
relationship in the same week where she's taken her intern exam, been
publicly humiliated by her father twice, lost her stepmother, and in
which her best friend is getting married is absolutely ridiculous! I'm
not saying Meredith is blameless -- she's got a lot of growing up to
do, relationshipwise. But why have Derek give her an ultimatum right
before Christina's wedding? Why not have them go into counseling
together? Surely there's enough history and love there to merit
working together before giving up."