Then think of clearing a path. And envision what you are clearing the path for. (It isn't just to get to the refrigerator.)
Is it to be with people? To have a relationship? Clutter is no different from carrying fat around, Ms. Passoff told us in class. It insulates you from the world.
Is it to do something creative, like painting or writing a novel?
"I've spent years talking to people about what they're working on," Ms. Passoff said. "Only to discover that they're not working on anything."
Dead silence. We looked at one another, furtively, thinking of those boxes of novel notes and unfinished canvases.
"So, what are you working on?" she asked us. "If you never do look at it, you're not working on it. So, throw it out."
Some people are afraid of losing the mystery of life if they clean up the clutter, but Ms. Passoff thinks that that's how you find the mystery of life.
"Ask yourself, 'What gives me life?' " she said. "If those piles are draining you of energy, if they're not supporting and nurturing you, then cut them off."
And stop holding on to ghosts. She told of one client who kept her dead mother's sewing machine in her living room -- and she doesn't even sew.
"I told her: 'You're a photographer. Take a picture of it and send it on its way.' "
"It's not that easy," whimpered a voice from the back.
"I didn't say it was easy," Ms. Passoff said. "I think it takes courage to carve a life that you say you want."
Maybe you don't know who you are. "But eliminate what you're not," she said. And what's left will be you.
"It's like Michelangelo carving the Pieta," she said. (Was that a halo behind her, or just a fluorescent bulb malfunctioning?)
At the next session, some classmates reported they were now driven to clean. A man with 106 boxes of books hired a helper for four hours and got rid of six! A woman said she couldn't wait to get back to her clutter -- to throw out more! Another man said every place he has ever lived in, including his childhood home, has depressed him.
He sat there for a minute. Maybe he needs more than a clutter class.
"Feeling comfortable at home always translates into being at home with yourself," Ms. Passoff said. "You want to create a place where you can live and be and thrive."
And how do we do that? (I actually like my clutter, but it's starting to act like a black hole.) Get some large trash bags, she said. And boxes for presorting. And file folders (the ones that hang in a cabinet or even a box, not the manilla ones that flop) and labels and nifty pens, like an ultra-fine Sharpie, to make you feel sharp.
Then clear a space, where you can comfortably sit and sort. Maybe your desk, but you'll have to move all that stuff. Or the living room, if you like to sit on the floor. (But not the bed, which is for relationships.) Then start going through those piles -- one piece at a time. If it's a financial thing, put it in the box labeled "financial." If it's a professional matter, put it in the "professional" box. If it's a love letter, the "personal" box. If it's a sock, put it under the bed. No, wait. In the laundry bag.
That's the easy part. Now, take one of those boxes and go through it, one item at a time, and deal with it. If it's a letter you want to answer, answer it, address the envelope and put a stamp on it. If it's a note to call someone back, call her and throw out the note. If it's an unpaid bill, pay it. If it's a paid bill and you need it for tax purposes, file it. But do not put it in another pile.